How can men in Hollywood and beyond respond to the #MeToo movement? How can they express their support and solidarity with #TimesUp?
For the last four years, The Representation Project has used #AskHerMore on the red carpet to spotlight how our culture values women’s appearance over their accomplishments. This year we’re using #AskMoreOfHim to invite men to not only join the conversation but to become allies in the movement for equality. We’re asking men to stand for women’s rights and end sexual harassment and violence against women.
It’s time we #AskMoreOfHim.
David Arquette, Justin Baldoni, Matt McGorry, Don Mcpherson, David Schwimmer, and more join #AskMoreOfHim campaign to support survivors of sexual harassment, abuse, and assault. Read the powerful letter.
“#MeToo, #TimesUp, #AskHerMore: These initiatives that have rocked the entertainment industry and the culture have so much in common. Grassroots. Online and Off. Women-led. Women-organized. Women-centric. So just imagine what would happen if the other half of the population stepped up and meaningfully joined these movements,” writes Jennifer Siebel Newsom and Jackson Katz, Ph.D. in The Hollywood Reporter.
Below, we’ve highlighted the work of several anti-sexist men’s organizations that are working to engage men in ending gender-based violence. Together, we’re giving men and boys the ideas, language, and strategies to take individual and collective action in their schools, workplaces, and communities.
10 THINGS MEN CAN DO TO PREVENT GENDER VIOLENCE
We all have a role in preventing violence. That’s why The Representation Project is proud to feature this list of “Ten Things Men Can Do to Prevent Gender Violence” by our friend and partner Dr. Jackson Katz.
1. Approach gender violence as a MEN’S issue
Approach sexual harrassment and forms of gender violence as a MEN’S issue involving men of all ages and socioeconomic, racial, and ethnic backgrounds. View men not only as perpetrators or possible offenders, but as empowered bystanders who can confront abusive peers.
2. Don’t Remain Silent
If a brother, friend, classmate, or teammate is abusing his female partner – or is disrespectful or abusive to girls and women in general – don’t look the other way. If you feel comfortable doing so, try to talk to him about it. Urge him to seek help. Or if you don’t know what to do, consult a friend, a parent, a professor, or a counselor. DON’T REMAIN SILENT.
3. Have the courage to look inward
Question your own attitudes. Don’t be defensive when something you do or say ends up hurting someone else. Try hard to understand how your own attitudes and actions might inadvertently perpetuate sexism and violence, and work toward changing them.
4. Ask If You Can Help
If you suspect that a woman close to you is being abused or has been sexually assaulted, gently ask if you can help.
5. Get Help
If you are emotionally, psychologically, physically, or sexually abusive to women, or have been in the past, seek professional help NOW.
6. Join the Cause
Be an ally to women who are working to end all forms of gender violence. Support the women whose courage and empowered voices have catalyzed the historic #MeToo movement. Attend “Take Back the Night” rallies and other public events. Raise money for community-based rape-crisis centers and battered women’s shelters. If you belong to a team, fraternity, or another student group, organize a fundraiser.
7. Be an Ally
Recognize and speak out against homophobia and gay-bashing. Discrimination and violence against LGBTQ people are wrong in and of themselves. This abuse also has direct links to sexism (e.g. the gender identity and sexual orientation of men who speak out against sexism is often questioned, a conscious or unconscious strategy intended to silence them. This is a key reason few men do so).
8. Educate Yourself
Attend programs, take courses, watch films, and read articles and books about multicultural masculinities, gender inequality, and the root causes of gender violence. Educate yourself and others about how larger social forces affect the conflicts between individual men and women.
9. Vote with your dollars and attention
Don’t fund sexism. Refuse to purchase any magazine, rent any video, subscribe to any website, or buy any music that portrays girls or women in a sexually degrading or abusive manner. Speak out about cyber-sexism and misogynist attacks against women on social media sites such as Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Reddit, etc. Protest sexism in new and old media.
10. Mentor Others
Mentor and teach young boys about how to be men in ways that don’t involve degrading or abusing girls and women (or men). Volunteer to work with gender violence prevention programs, including anti-sexist men’s programs. Lead by example.
This content was produced by MVP Strategies, a gender violence prevention education and training organization.
In partnership with actor, producer, and activist Justin Baldoni, Man Enough is a disruptive social movement ignited by a dinner conversation series that explores the heart of traditional masculinity in America. The mission of the show and the movement is to create a unique space where men, no matter their race, creed, sexual orientation and identity, political stance, or socio-economic status can come together to express their thoughts and feelings freely – something men have been socialized to cut off in America.
Man Enough invites all men to challenge the unwritten rules of traditional masculinity that have caused us to disconnect from one another, created the foundation of men’s violence against women and prevented us from taking the long journey from our heads to our hearts. Let’s hold ourselves and each other accountable to consciously taking part in this conversation, listening even when it gets uncomfortable, and making real changes in our lives to be better men tomorrow than we are today. You are Man Enough. Learn more.
The Mask You Live In follows boys and young men as they struggle to stay true to themselves while negotiating America’s narrow definition of masculinity. Learn more about the documentary now.
A primer for men who want to be allies by Michael Kimmel. Read the full article
In the four decades since women invited men to work to end men’s violence against women—and to transform restrictive, conventional masculinity into an openhearted reimagined masculinities—a growing number of grassroots organizations, practical initiatives and innovative projects have emerged around the world. Thank you to Voice Male Magazine for compiling and letting us feature this list of organizations engaged in this work.
Let's assume you want things to be better for everyone, you just literally do not know what to say. Well don’t worry, here are some remarks you can use.
The Man Box report, launched by Promundo, is a study on young men’s attitudes, behaviors, and understandings of manhood. The research, conducted with a representative, random sample of young men aged 18 to 30 in the US, UK, and Mexico, reveals that most men still feel pushed to live in the “Man Box” – a rigid construct of cultural ideas about male identity. This includes being self-sufficient, acting tough, looking physically attractive, sticking to rigid gender roles, being heterosexual, having sexual prowess, and using aggression to resolve conflicts.
In partnership with the Ad Council, the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) and the National Women's Law Center (NWLC), That's Harassment is a PSA campaign to empower victims and bystanders to speak out against sexual harassment and provide tools for employers to create a safe work environment.
Christopher Pepper, a health educator in the San Francisco Unified School District, co-wrote these lessons with the New York Times Learning Network on how to talk to students about the #MeToo Movement and Sexual Harassment.
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THANKS TO THE MEN WHO STARTED IT ALL
Dennis Barbour, The Partnership for Male Youth
Gary Barker, Promundo-US
Eric Barthold, “Man Up” and Open
Humberto Carolo, Executive Director at White Ribbon Canada
Jeremy Earp, Media Education Foundation
Doug French, Co-founder at Dad 2.0 Summit
Jonathan Kalin, Party With Consent
Michael Kimmel, SUNY, Stony Brook
Michael A. Messner, USC
Pedro Noguera, UCLA
Rob Okun, Voice Male Magazine
Ianta Summers, The Women’s March
A Call to Men
Futures Without Violence
NAMEN – North American MenEngage Network
The Representation Project